It is with a heavy heart that I am writing about my fellow Jewish triplet mother, Abbie Cohen Dorn.I have been following her story for a while, and I am a whirlwind of emotion about her family and situation.
You can read all about her circumstances here and here,
but because I know few people actually click on links, I will do my best to summarize in my own view, based on my personal connection to the issue.
In a nutshell, Abbie Dorn a religious Jewish woman, she got marriedand wanted to start a family with her husband. Like me, she hit the jackpot with not one, not two, but three babies. She delivered her triplets at Cedars Sinai Los Angeles, in June of 2006. Her BBG triplets were born healthy but during her c-section her uterus was nicked and she bled out causing cardiac arrest and the inability to be revived for more than 20 minutes. This caused a brain injury that to this day has left her unable to care for herself or her family.
Dan Dorn, her husband has divorced her (one year after the birth and malpractice)and is raising the triplets by himself in Los Angeles, while Abbie is in the care of her own parents in South Carolina. The legal battle of the Dorns is not really about custody, but rather Abbie's legal rights to have visitation with her children. Her ex-husband has forbidden the children from a relationship with their mother because of her condition.
Dan Dorn has not been interviewed and has only spoken through his attorney. I find it odd that he does not want his children to have any contact with their mother but he is asking for child support from her estate. I am horrified.
Obviously, this story hits on a few of my nerves. I can't understand why Dan Dorn is really opposed to allowing supervised visitation. Clearly, Abbie is unable to be a custodial parent, but her desire to see, hear, touch and witness her children is understandable. I know that her parents are making decisions on her behalf, and I am sure they would like to continue to have a relationship with their grandchildren. Even if Abbie is in a vegetative state and does not understand or know what is happening, why can't she have her triplets in her life? Her condition and prognosis is up for debate but I am not sure why that is relevant. She is alive, her children are alive- let them share some time together.
How can a father keep his children from knowing they have a mother? What good is it to shelter them from her? What happened to their wedding vows? Who bails on a marriage with triplet infants when the going gets tough?
The case is not about her right to be a caregiver but to just have visitation.
I just do not get it. This case has been on my mind for quite sometime, and I know that there are plenty of triplet moms who read my blog. I am posting this to show my support for Abbie and her parents. I hope they get the justice they so very much deserve.
As a Jewish woman, a triplet mom, and a firm believer in karma, I pray for these children.
If there is one positive thing that can come from this story, it is the keen awareness of how lucky I am.
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